31 Aug Do You Have An Anchor?
We tend to think of an anchor as a bad thing– something that holds us down and keeps us from being free. This is not always the case.
✔️ Your anchor cannot depend on someone else or on your job.
✔️ It is so important to have something greater than yourself in life.
✔️ Your own internal motivation is a fickle friend. If you’ve ever started a diet, you know what I mean.
✔️ Knowing your own values and code of ethics can keep you from making some truly awful mistakes.
✔️ Life is full of changes and chances. It’s good to have something you can rely on, no matter what.
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Transcription by Otter.ai:
Hello, hello and welcome to today’s episode of the Causey Consulting Podcast. I’m your host, Sara Causey and I’m also the owner of Causey Consulting, which you can find online anytime at CauseyConsultingLLC.com. Today I want to talk about having an anchor, something that you can always rely on, something that you can always come back to. Now, before I dive into what I mean, I want to talk about what I don’t mean. In many ways we have kind of a negative idea of an anchor. It’s something that ties me down something that keeps me from being free. The ship can’t go because it’s just stuck with an anchor. If you’ve ever heard someone pejoratively refer to their spouse The old ball and chain. That’s definitely an example of what I don’t mean. Are if you’ve ever heard someone refer to their job as golden handcuffs? Well, I’d like to leave. I sure am miserable here. I hate my co-workers and my boss is a jerk. But I just feel like my salary’s too high, I couldn’t leave and get the same money from somebody else. So I guess I’ll just stay. Wah wah! Also a perfect example of what I’m not talking about. Sad but true relationships come and go. If we’re putting all of our faith and all of our trust in someone that we’re dating or even sad to say someone that we’re married to, that’s playing a dangerous game. People come and go out of your life, whether it’s a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, a lot of relationships nowadays do not last for an entire lifetime. And it’s definitely true with your job. I mean, it’s almost not even worth mentioning. employment is so transitory nowadays, that people go from job to job or they go from gig to gig contract to contract hustle to hustle. I definitely don’t see anything wrong with that. I mean, I I love the fact that technology is at a point where I can work from home, everything that I need to do from a coaching and consulting perspective I can do online and over the phone and through technology and I thank God for that every day and I’m, I’m dead serious when I say that, you know, if you look at my gratitude, journal work from home, being at home technology, those are things that always make an appearance in there. I’m so glad to be at the hacienda and not stuck in a cubicle somewhere with a boss walking around a nasty bullpen looking at me all day. But employment comes and goes jobs come and go cut remember Enron and all the too big to fail stuff that happened like companies come and go to. So if you’re putting all of your faith and hope and trust in a company and a job and a spouse and somebody that you’re dating it honestly, nowadays, it’s a fool’s errand. So the types of anchors that I’m talking about, it can absolutely be spiritual. Your anchor can be God or the Word of God. If you’re not spiritual, then your anchor can also just be anything outside of yourself, being able to perform some kind of service, whether it’s to a social cause, a charity, someone that you really care about, like it just needs to be something that you can come back to consistently outside of your own head. Motivation is a very fickle friend. If you’ve ever decided to go on a diet, you know exactly what I’m talking about. It is very easy on Sunday or Sunday night to sit with a journal and like plan out your meals and Okay, I’m going to exercise I’m going to get up early. I’m going to do this many hours in the gym and I’m going to make sure that I keep my macros to this or my calories to that. I mean you’ve got all the motivation in the world the day before. But then Monday morning rolls around and it’s like oh, god, why why did I want to do this? I’m tired. I want to hit the snooze button. I don’t want to go to the gym right now. Or, oh, you know, this stuff I made for breakfast tastes like cardboard and I’d much rather have some sugar instead of this. Motivation wanes and the more that we try to like white knuckle our way through something and Okay, if I can just get through this fast or if I can just get through this like no carbs for the next three weeks. I think I’m gonna be okay. I mean, statistics have shown we cave like the human body, the human mind was not meant to just be in this high stress white knuckle misery forever and ever. Sometimes in these situations, it can be very are useful to hire a nutritionist, a health coach, a personal trainer, somebody you can go to who can be an accountability partner as well as a trusted adviser, someone that can rein you in a little bit and say, all right, you don’t need to cut that many calories. You’re gonna your body is going to go into starvation mode or is it really realistic that you’re going to go from not working out at all to working out 12 hours the first week, probably not like it’s just good to have wise counsel and a sounding board. I would also put agriculture in the category of an anchor outside yourself, when you have land to take care of when you have animals that are depending on you for food and water and shelter and proper care. You don’t get to just throw your hands up one day and say oh, to hell with it. It’s raining so I don’t feel like going out there or I have a headache. I didn’t sleep really well. I guess I just won’t like there is no option to say I guess I don’t feel like it and I just won’t. Unless you’re at a place where you can hire help. And it’s good, reliable, trustworthy help that you know, will assist you and taking care of your animals in your property. It’s a 24/7/365 kind of thing. I’m biased surely because I have a farm and ranch, but I also find it to be really character building, because it pushes out your tolerance level, when you’re able to say, okay, you know, I’m not going to be able to take any days off these animals are depending on me, I have to have to have to have to have to take care of them. It really increases your tolerance level for other things in life that need to be taken care of. I think, you know, a society that says everybody gets an A for effort, everybody gets a participation trophy. If you don’t feel like doing this today, you can go into a cry closet. I mean, what kind of a message are we sending to people if it’s like, what If you just don’t feel like doing something then don’t ever do it. That’s a whole other can of worms. That’s I’m sure a podcast episode for another day and another time. Having an anchor in your life also gives you a sense of stability. I was reading a prayer the other day that said something about the chances and changes of life and being able to rest in God because of his changelessness. Knowing that God is the same, you can always come back to him, you can always talk to him, you can always get into his word. And you know, what you’re going to find when you get there. And there’s a real comfort to that. It’s a reliability, it’s a sense of strength, it’s a sense of comfort. You being able to know that whatever kind of muck and gunk and junk gets thrown at you over the course of any particular day. You can always go to your higher power To have a safe place to fall, and to have have that sense of comfort to be wrapped up in mercy and in peace. That is a tremendous gift. And again, if you’re listening to this episode and you’re not a spiritual person, you can find comfort and peace in causes that are meaningful to you, helping someone else out that’s less fortunate being part of a charitable organization. I mean, that is one fantastic way to be able to count your blessings. You know, when you see people who are much worse off than you are. It’s like this story that I told not long ago, the rabbinical story about the tree of sorrows, when everybody got the opportunity to go around and see everyone else’s list of problems. They ultimately decided to keep their own. Because no matter what kind of struggle it is that you’re going through, there’s always somebody else out there that has a bigger battle to fight. I would To say that whether you’re spiritual or not having a good code of ethics, having some values that you’ve really been able to hammer out over the course of time and say this is an important priority to me, and or this is align, I just simply don’t cross. That also gives you some stability and reliability, so that when a storm comes in your life, which it will, and you feel like you’re being buffeted by the winds, and you’re really tempted to just tell somebody off or punch somebody in the mouth or do something that you shouldn’t do, coming back to that code of ethics and the values that you’ve codified for yourself. It really does help. And it’s valuable, I think, to just ask yourself the question, is this the person that I want to be? Do I want to be the person that flies off the handle? Do I want to be the person that gets out of control in a rage do I want to be the person that potentially gets slapped with an assault charge because I just had to punch that guy in the mouth. No, you don’t. But knowing what you believe ahead of time understanding who you are as a person, what you value is an important way to keep yourself reined in it. To me it all comes back to having an anchor. It we sometimes fantasize about having all of this unlimited freedom and being able to just run wild like a crazy person, but we still have to deal with the aftermath. I once heard someone say, You’re free to make any of the choices that you want in life, but you’re not free from the consequences. If you enjoyed today’s episode, please share it. If you haven’t already, take a quick second to subscribe to this podcast and leave a review for us on iTunes. Bye for now.